On 24 August 2012, my wife and I discovered that I was pregnant from our very first IUI treatment with donor sperm. Two days later came the first signs that not all was well. What we initially thought was a very early miscarriage turned out to be a pregnancy of unknown location, and I spent two months carrying a child that we knew would never be born. We finally lost baby May (named after her – or his – due date) in late October.
Mama, Interrupted is my blog about coping with this experience and about our subsequent journey to conceive, which has been a rocky one including a second miscarriage. It is also about my Christian faith, which is being challenged and changed through the process. My wife (OH) has her own blog at Mummy Number 2, where she writes about negotiating fertility treatment as the ‘other’ lesbian parent.
What can I tell you about myself? I’m British, in my early 30s, and married (in a civil partnership) with three cats. I’m an auntie and soon to be a godmother. I’m also something of a career woman, and I work from home as a professional translator. I love choral music, poetry, learning new languages and mindfulness. I’m an Anglican and my favourite book of the Bible is the Psalms.
It frustrates me how little our society acknowledges infertility and miscarriage, and I hope I can change this in my own small way by speaking out. As my blog is read by real-life friends and others with no direct experience of fertility treatment, I try to avoid using acronyms where possible, and to explain any technical terms as they come up.
You can contact me by leaving a comment anywhere on this blog, through Twitter, or by email at songs [dot] sonnets [at] gmail [dot] com.